I’m never quite sure what most coaches do, I missed the weekend course, so I don’t know their secrets.
I don’t really even like Coach as a job title, but the wacky alternatives are so much worse, particularly, for some reason, in California.
I can’t imagine ever being qualified enough to be a Life Coach, thankfully, but, for all my somewhat dodgy attitude towards it, against all odds, I do love coaching, and love always works.
When I’m coaching I just focus on being totally alert, using all my skills, and stay dead set on making sure I help someone get better results in their life.
I’m lucky that people like to talk to me, they know their secrets are safe, and I’ll probably forget them quite quickly anyway. I look for the good, with sharpened vision, and I think we are none of us the full ticket, we’re all just a work in progress, getting on with getting better when we can.
There are three questions I pretty much always ask, a little core in my coaching sessions, and thought, Dear Reader, you might like them.
First - How much better could you be?
I ask this question because realising you can be better, get more knowledge, learn new skills, opens their mind to the idea of change. I don’t care how they answer, it’s usually a percentage, unless they think they are already as good they can be, then I’m happy for them, end the session, and leave them be.
Second - If you were that much better, how would it change your results/your life/your happiness?
I’m really just asking so they look within and without for some motivation, I know they’ll need it.
Third - What is stopping you?
I push and push for answers to this one, gently but continuously, until I make sure I get a long list, then immediately cull it of excuses, things out of their control, and idiotic claims (‘My horoscope said this would be a difficult year’), and they are left with a few things they can do something about.
I ask these questions, in my idiosyncratic way, and it’s the fastest way I know to come up with a real life Action Plan, an important To-Do List, that my client will actually execute, or at least have a go, and which will likely work.
Here’s the thing, you don’t need me, or any coach, to do this for you, just sit down for 20 minutes and do it yourself, and Dear Reader I’m pretty sure something good will come of it.
Imagine that, asking yourself three questions could change everything.
With love X
This blog is part of a chapter from a new book, Sack Your Coach, Hire Yourself, out soon and fear not, I’ll let you know.
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